To the Struggling Husband and Wife: There Is Hope in Christ


Dear beloved in Christ,

If you are reading this with a heavy heart—perhaps burdened by pain, distance, or silence in your marriage—please know that you are not alone, and you are not without hope.

St. Paul writes:

“Now all these things are from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation, namely, that God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself, not counting their transgressions against them, and He has committed to us the word of reconciliation.”
— 2 Corinthians 5:18–19 (LSB)

God’s heart is reconciliation. He sent His Son to restore us to Himself, and through that same grace, He calls you to walk together toward healing and renewal in your marriage.

Your Marriage Is a Holy Sacrament

In the Orthodox Church, marriage is not merely a personal agreement or a legal contract. It is a holy sacrament—a sacrament through which a man and a woman are united by God and crowned in Christ. Unlike some traditions where the couple exchange vows and say “I do,” in the Orthodox wedding, the couple does not make verbal promises to each other. Instead, they receive spiritual counsel from the Church and are led into union through sacred prayers, blessings, and the crowning rite.

This sacramental union is sealed by the grace of the Holy Spirit, and that grace is still active—even when the relationship is wounded or strained.

What Does the Ministry of Reconciliation Mean for You?

1. Begin with the Mercy of God

Through Christ, God reconciled the world to Himself, not counting our sins against us. This is the starting point for healing: not mutual blame, but mutual return to God’s mercy. When each spouse seeks forgiveness from Christ, the way opens to forgive each other.

“Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, graciously forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.”
— Ephesians 4:32

2. The Church Is Here for You

The Orthodox Church is a spiritual home, not a courtroom. It exists to lift up the fallen, to comfort the weary, and to guide the lost. If you are hurting in your marriage, do not bear the burden alone. Reach out to your priest or spiritual father. There is no shame in asking for help.

“Confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed.”
— James 5:16

3. Love Is a Journey, Not Just a Feeling

Love in marriage often begins with joy, but it must mature through self-sacrifice. Christ did not abandon us when we were weak—He bore our weaknesses and gave Himself for us. When love is wounded, it can still be restored by grace, patience, and humility.

4. Return to the Sacrament, Not Just the Memory

When you were crowned in the Church, you were joined by God Himself. The priest prayed for you, not that you would never face hardship, but that you would be united in one heart and one spirit. The healing of your marriage is not about reliving the past—it is about rediscovering the sacred mystery that still binds you in Christ.

5. Take One Small Step Today

Healing is a process. Don’t wait until everything feels right. Begin with a simple step:

  • A shared prayer

  • A quiet act of kindness

  • A heartfelt conversation

  • A visit to the Church for counsel and blessing

Each step, no matter how small, opens the door for God to work.

You Are Not Without Hope

Christ, who blessed your union and joined you by His Spirit, has not left you. Even when words fail, even when tears flow in silence, His grace remains. He can renew your love, restore your peace, and reconcile your hearts.

Let the Church walk with you. Let the healing begin—not in your strength alone, but in the power of Christ.

There is mercy. There is grace. There is a new beginning—in Him.

With pastoral love and prayers,

Fr. Abraam Sleman

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